Boulder, CO, Estados Unidos : Amare Press, c2018.

iv, 257 p. ; 23 cm.

Acknowledgments. -- Author's notes. -- I. Who and what emotional predators are - A new paradigm for understanding problem people. -- 1. The true nature of the problem. -- Current popular theories are inadequate. -- Don't be distracted by different labels and diagnoses. -- Naive views set you up to be a target. -- Analyzing or trying to change them will not help. -- Traditional therapy approaches for neurotics will not protect you. -- The golden rule does not work with emotional predators. -- Even "experts" do not always know. -- 2. The difference between emotional predators and decent people. -- Empathy -The foundation of decency. -- Conscience and compassion -The fruits of empathy. -- Core traits and behaviors of an emotional predator.. -- The hidden aspect -Concealed versus visible aggression. -- II. How to protect yourself from emotional predators. -- 3. Step 1 -How to identify emotional predators. -- An initial concern -How you are different. -- Emotional predator behaviors, tactics and traits. -- Common attitudes and professions. -- Techniques and tips for spotting emotional predators. -- 4. Step 2 -How to know your emotionally vulnerable places better than an emotional predator does. -- Knowing yourself is the core of all defenses. -- Past emotional injuries create present and future vulnerability. -- Know what is closest to your heart -Resist your desire to share it. -- Other desire that can betray you. -- Self-victimizing beliefs. -- Other things to know about yourself. -- Ways to know yourself better. --5. Step 3 -How to be flexible about the ways you define yourself that make you vulnerable. -- The power of changing yourself. -- We write our stories -they create our experience. -- Sources of our stories. -- Alternatives to a few common stories. -- Self-care: Positive practices to boost your morale and build fortitude. -- 6. Step 4 -How to disengage and avoid an emotional predator. -- Do not engage, do not confront. -- If you're already engaged, then disengage -Don not be provoked. -- Projective identification: A powerful kind of provocation. -- Three levels of being unprovoked. -- Use boundaries to avoid being drawn into engaging -An introduction. -- 7. Step 5 -How to deal strategically with an unavoidable emotional predator. -- Play emotional predator games better than they do. -- Mastering the emotional predator game of controlling information -Gathering information. -- Mastering the emotional predator game of controlling information -Releasing information. -- More ways to outplay emotional predators at their own game. -- Defense tactics focusing on behavior modification and boundaries. -- Thee cautions: Courts, agencies and internet reviews. -- 8. Review. -- Be realistic about human nature. -- Accurately assess others. -- Recognize emotional predator traits and behaviors. -- Know yourself. -- Adjust your core interpersonal stories. -- Respond strategically, don't react emotionally. -- Play emotional predator games better than they do. -- Control information. -- Practice deception. -- Cultivate allies. -- Conserve resources and avoid losing battles -Do not be provoked. -- Practice gratitude and humor. -- 9. Closing thoughts: some paradoxes and contributing to a more decent world. -- Endnotes. -- About the author. --

Tomado de la pasta: "Steven Wolhandler, JD, MA, LPC knows how abusive and manipulative people prey on the emotions of good people - and how good people can protect themselves. He offers a radically different view of these Emotional Predators and provides practical effective solutions. For Emotional Predators, life is a strategy game to dominate and control, and you are either a player to be defeated or a game piece to be used. Without empathy or remorse, they’ll ruin your life, and traditional approaches will make things worse. You’ll learn 5 essential steps for protecting yourself, valuable guidance for safe relationships and over 30 specific defensive tactics for: * Distinguishing romance from intimacy* Restoring your self-esteem* Removing your emotional triggers* Using gratitude and humor* Playing their games better than they do - without becoming like them* Screening professionals to be sure they can help* Regaining control in family court* Breaking an addiction to an Emotional Predator * Re-balancing power in your favor* Adjusting beliefs that keep you trapped* Responding strategically, instead of reacting emotionally."

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Incluye referencias bibliográficas (pp. 253-257)